On the 16th of December, 2012, in far away yonder, Osarume and Bidemi called their families together to formalise the love that had grown between them.
It was a beautiful ceremony you will see, after going through these pictures. It was two beautiful families eager to be joined together, as one, in law. I will try to tell you the story with an explanation of the key traditional rites required for a Benin Wedding.
Osarume had taken her time to chose the different accessories for her outfit for the day….Be Inspired!!!
While we took time to, OOO!! and Ahhh!!!, over the beauty of the things she had bought for her wedding, this young angel walked into the room and warned everyone sternly, Y’all had better start getting ready. The entire house is full of people waiting to see the bride!!!!
Stunned into the reality of the day,
and seeing as people kept trooping in to see the wonderful bride
We had no choice but to start preparing for the day in earnest.
But trust me, the eagerness to see the bride was so much, they did not wait for her to be fully readied before they asked her to come and answer as to wether she was ready to allow them accept the solicitations of the grooms family begging for her hand in marriage…..
Funny, Osarume was as eager as the groom and she said a quick yes to all questions asked.
Happily, she was asked to go and get ready for her groom.
Meanwhile, in gratitude for the care and the upbringing the brides mother gave the bride, she was given a token sum as appreciation. This great woman quietly gave back the entire sum and instructed that her daughter be taken care of. The grooms entourage pleaded she takes a little of the token sum which she yielded to under pressure. Afterwards she welcomed the grooms family into her house happily. Next was the turn of the brides father to collect the bride price as required by tradition. After the demanded sum had been counted, the pot of money was handed over to the brides father. He immediately went into a summary explanation of how his daughter cannot be bought with money and her price is above rubies. He took, and pocketed, just the 24 Nigerian Nairas required by the tradition of the Binis and returned the entire pot of money back to the grooms father with just one instruction. Take care of my daughter.
All this while, as the proceedings dragged on downstairs, the bride was painstakingly getting ready. I just loved the plenty hands on her head here…………………an eagerness to be helpful on the best day of a womans life. I try to imagine what people think at times. What were they thinking? Suggestions? Answer? Bidemi, who had been kept outside, all this while was eventually asked to come into the venue to meet his people and his bride. He bubbled in with laughter and dancing. and hugged his grand mother fiercely when he saw her. I was touched at this scene. Finally the bride came down and was again asked if she was ready to go away with Bidemi……………..YES!!! She said…………………Is that your final answer? YES!! In the Bini tradition, the woman is handed over to the grooms father by asking her to stand and sit 7times on the laps of her father in law. The grooms father then hands over the newly acquired daughter to his son and instructs him to keep her well. After that, the traditional rites of the wedding proper where performed as all Osarume’s friends watched the proceedings solemnly. First the Kola nuts where broken and shared by the bride and groom.
Next honey and sugar was given in a plate to them to share of the sweetness of it. Finally, palm wine was given to them to drink from the same cup. And with those symbolic rites, the traditional wedding was over. The family went into rapturous joy as they celebrated their union. As we all went out into the open garden for a celebration of the union. This MC’s etighi dance was hilarious! The couple took time to do a quick shoot before the eating, drinking, and dancing started in earnest.
These Ijaw dancers where brought in to honour the grooms mother. and Bidemi showed his skils. I slowed my shutter speed down to capture this waist rolling action.
I couldn’t help caption this photograph aptly. In Nigeria, when you dance well, you get rewarded for it. 🙂 The traditional wedding of Osarume and Bidemi was beautiful you must agree. Full of tradition, love and joy. Their white was even more fun……Just a lil more time and you will see it on this blog.
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